How are you today? Is “fine” your typical polite answer?
Let’s pretend for a second that we’re old friends, and you can tell us anything. So now, digging a little deeper… how are you really?
Are you stressed, frustrated, scared, exhausted, lonely or crazy-worried about your kid?
Does he or she have challenges that you just don’t know how to deal with, even after you feel like you’ve tried everything recommended by the specialists and the doctors and the therapists?
Cutting through the BS, dropping the fake smiles, and facing the truth is hard stuff. But you’ve made it to this page, so we know you are ready, you are open to turning a corner.
Accepting help can be tough. Just like our kids want to feel like they can do it without any help from us, we have all these pretty images of what parenting should be like — and they usually don’t include needing help for ourselves. When things don’t go as expected, we feel frustrated and inadequate. Shouldn’t we be able to do this on our own?
To be completely honest with you, a few years ago our parenting lives were completely miserable. Don’t get us wrong – we loved our kids more than anything, but we stopped enjoying being parents. It was so hard!
We felt like failures. Why, seriously WHY was this area of our life so difficult, and why did it have to leech into every other part of our lives?
We felt like we were sinking — or at best, tredding water. Nothing really changed until we found coaching. And then…everything changed!
We’ll tell you more about ourselves in a moment, but first, we want to share something with you that may come as a surprise…
YOU need self-management and life strategies more than your kid.
Wait, what? Yeah, you read that right!
It’s true. Parents are the missing link between craziness and calm when it comes to complex kids with challenges like ADHD, anxiety and learning disabilities.
Let us explain.
We know that you do SO much for your kid, but hardly anything for yourself, right?
Well it turns out that trap isn’t any good for anyone — you OR your kids!
You know how on an airplane you are always told to put your own oxygen mask on before helping your kid? Well, there is wisdom in that message, even when you think you don’t have the time. You have to take care of your own needs in order to do a good job looking after your child. If you run out of oxygen – everyone suffers!
Bottom line: you need to look after YOU in order to be a good parent.
Why? Because it’s a heckuva lot harder to help your kids build a strong, happy life if you start with a shaky foundation.
This is key – critical for you to successfully manage the complex issues your child is facing. And it is a fundamental part of our overall method of using a coach-approach to master the art of raising complex kids. Over the years we have tried, tested and proven hundreds of remarkably simple strategies from the world of coaching that are like magic when it comes to helping parents change their lives, and their families lives, for the better. And we want to show you how.
When you sign up for this remarkable free training you will learn:
- The 6 key challenge areas that most parents face. You may struggle with 2 – 3 of these, or maybe all 6. Find out!
- How to make a distinction between disobedience and disability (when your child doesn’t have the executive function development to fulfill others’ expectations).
- Ways you can create structures to organize and transform your life that will actually meet the needs of your child.
- Strategies and techniques for all of the above.
- …and much more!
Why you can’t afford not to try this!
The truth is, when untreated and poorly managed, kids with ADD and similar challenges are at a much higher risk of the “parents worst nightmare” stuff.
Things like: dropping out of school, being unable to keep a job, drug and substance abuse, and even criminal behaviour. The risks for kids with untreated ADHD are alarming, not to mention the increased likelihood of developing other co-existing challenges like anxiety and depression.
On the less dramatic (but still troubling) side, we also now see so many kids returning home to live with their parents in their 20’s because they’re simply not ready for independence.
BUT … when a child’s issues are well-treated — when she has been taught management and life strategies — these statistics change dramatically for the better.
It’s truly tragic that so many good kids become troubled adults because they never learn how to properly manage themselves early on. How many bad situations might be easily avoided with some earlier management techniques from a parent who knows how?